The unifying theme in social anxiety disorder is a fear of performing poorly in social situations and suffering from embarrassment or humiliation. By definition, social situations mean interacting with or performing for other people and being under their potential scrutiny. If a socially anxious individual's performance is found wanting in some way, he often says to himself, "How embarrassing" or "How humiliating." This fear of embarrassment or humiliation causes these individuals to either avoid those situations altogether, or suffer extreme anxiety as they endure them. Their lives can be further complicated by anticipatory fear of upcoming social encounters.

In addition, social anxiety disorder sufferers often experience physical symptoms before or during social interaction. They may have palpitations, sweating and trembling. Some experience flushing or blushing. These physical indicators of anxiety may become part of a vicious cycle. As socially anxious individuals anticipate or become involved in social encounters, they experience an increase in these troublesome symptoms, which makes them even more anxious. In addition, they worry that their anxiety or awkwardness will become even more obvious, and this, in turn, leads to further embarrassment and humiliation.

This depends on specific conditions. Consult your doctor for best advice. Here are some other tips.

• Put your past in perspective - live for today and tomorrow

• Stay positive - reinforce your mind with positive self-talk

• Stick with with positive people

• Get a clear focus/vision for future

• Set realistic goals

• Set goals / Take action

• Be persistent and consistent

• Keep rejection in perspective (don't let it bother you )

• your low self-esteem is giving you too much depression or anxiety.

Most likely a referral to a psychiatrist.